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"Why doesn't the child recognize the homework?"

"Why is it that even though they know how to do it, they love to drag things out?"

"Why are some assignments so difficult and chaotic?"

How to get children to do their homework by themselves?

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Family education expert, teacher Jin Yan, gives parents advice.

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Author: Zhi Wei Cheng

Source: Audiobooks for Middle School Students (ID: tingshu2018)

The psychologist William James once mentioned a viewpoint:

"In our lifetime, we are just the sum of countless habits."

However, when people are young, they often do not understand the true meaning of this sentence, and they recklessly pursue pleasure, leaving unforeseen troubles for their bodies.

A few days ago, I saw a piece of news that deeply saddened me:

A 12-year-old boy from Hunan developed a lump on his clavicle, so he went to the hospital for an examination. After the examination results and doctor's diagnosis, he was confirmed to have primary bronchogenic lung cancer, and the disease has progressed to advanced stage.

The doctor said that because the child is too young, although he looks similar to normal people on the surface, the condition is actually very serious.

According to the doctor's analysis, it can be determined that there are many causes of lung cancer, with the most common ones being smoking, environmental pollution, and unhealthy lifestyle habits in daily life.

The boy's mother burst into tears when she recalled her son's daily eating and sleeping habits.

“He rarely eats breakfast, and only eats half a bowl of food for lunch and dinner when he is forced to. He drinks carbonated beverages and fruit juice when thirsty, rarely drinking plain water; he also enjoys playing games and often stays up late holding his cellphone…”

No matter how deep the regrets are now, they are ultimately no match for the cruelty of reality. It is too late to say anything.

"People cannot be persuaded to wake up, they can only be awakened by pain. Truths cannot be learned, they can only be experienced firsthand."

On the road of education, what we fear the most is that children do not take their health seriously and parents do not take habits seriously.

In a family, nothing is more painful than a momentary negligence that results in a lifetime of regret.

Live each day as if it were your whole life.

Yang Ye from Beijing Sport University said:

"The chest circumference of today's teenagers is getting wider, but lung capacity is getting smaller;"

The body is becoming more and more towering, but running is getting slower and slower.

The weight is getting bigger, but the strength is getting weaker;

"The development of intelligence is increasing, but the agility is becoming weaker..."

Fundamentally, it is actually the lack of exercise and irregular lifestyle that leave hidden dangers. Over time, the body becomes worse and the immune system becomes weaker.

Coco, the daughter of relatives, has seen a significant decline in her grades and developed a severe stomach illness since she entered high school. She often needs to take leave to rest at home.

Watching their child about to enter the third year of high school, the family is both nervous and anxious, fearing that mistakes may be made during the preparation for the exams.

During a recent family gathering, she talked about the growth of each other's children. She was both upset and regretful, constantly lamenting that things would have been better if she hadn't spoiled Coco so much in previous years.

A few years ago, Coco's grandparents moved in to live with them. The old couple doted on their granddaughter, so they would come up with different ways to pamper her every day.

Bag after bag of snacks are stored at home, while corners are filled with large and small bottles of drinks. They will go to any lengths just to make their granddaughter happy.

Whenever it's mealtime, Coco often loses her appetite because she has eaten too much junk food. She is used to hastily eating a few bites of food and then quickly "escaping from the dining table".

After eating too many heavy snacks and takeout, sometimes she refuses to eat home-cooked meals by saying she's "not hungry."

Initially, when the relatives noticed various changes in their daughter and tried to provide appropriate guidance, the elderly would always intervene, saying, "The child is still young, there's nothing to worry about her sweet tooth. As long as she is happy, it's fine."

I didn't expect that as time passed, Coco, being spoiled by elders, became more and more unrestrained. She doesn't eat well, sleep well, stays up late at night, doesn't get up early in the morning, and often doesn't even have time to eat breakfast.

Apart from going to school, she spends most of her time lying in bed sleeping. She doesn't like going out on weekends and prefers to stay at home watching TV.

Later in high school, due to lack of sleep for a long time, she also found it difficult to concentrate in class. Sometimes she would have to leave school early after just two classes because of stomach pain.

After undergoing various tests, it was revealed that Koko has developed chronic gastritis. Without proper care and treatment, Koko's stomach condition will only worsen year by year, and normal diet will be affected.

Professor Qian Wenzhong from Fudan University once called for...

"Educating children should not be done in the name of love by constantly giving in to them. We need to truly take responsibility for our children."

The so-called responsibility is not just providing children with material needs and then acting like a "hands-off boss," indulging them and waiting for them to blossom on their own.

Instead, it focuses on cultivating good habits, accompanying children to plan their current lives well, quitting bad habits, and embracing a better future together.

Just like the father in Qingdao, Shandong who takes his son running every day:

When he realized that his 10-year-old son's weight had surged to 122 pounds and was already affecting his health, he immediately made up his mind to help the child transform.

Since then, he set a goal for his son to go running outdoors for 4-6 kilometers every day. As long as there are no special circumstances, he must persist in completing it.

In the following eight months, the boy also mustered up courage and went for a run every day, with very few breaks.

Now, the "little chubby" in everyone's eyes has completely transformed inside and out, losing 34 pounds in weight and feeling much better both physically and mentally.

The father is also very pleased, and he mentioned that his son has become more confident and cheerful since losing weight, and his study efficiency has also improved.

"No child is naturally self-disciplined, it is only through dedicated nurturing by parents."

True education begins with love, lasts for commitment, stabilizes with patience, and ends with responsibility.

No matter how old the child is, you must always tell him:

How you live each day is how you live your life; how you take care of your body is how life will treat you.

The saying goes: A person who doesn't worry about the way back will advance further on the way forward.

When children are young, parents should take on the responsibility of ensuring their health, helping them to guard every aspect of their health, so that children can have a brighter future.

Steve Jobs once said something very true:

"In the first 30 years of your life, you develop habits;"

"In the last 30 years of your life, your habits determine your outcome."

Profoundly true. Every seemingly insignificant detail in life, every habitual negligence, could potentially trigger a tsunami in one's life.

Zhejiang Cancer Hospital's Department of Head and Neck Surgery once treated a special pharyngeal cancer patient named Mr. Li.

When asking about his medical history, the doctor learned that Mr. Li started smoking and drinking at the age of 15.

Due to the family's relatively wealthy background and being overly spoiled by family members, he can do whatever he wants, eat whatever he wants, and play whatever he wants in his daily life, without any need to consider anyone else's opinions.

During his teenage years, he always had a cigarette in hand, often smoking up to five packs a day, which is roughly around a hundred cigarettes.

Besides smoking, he also particularly enjoys drinking alcohol, even treating beer as if it were water. Water is rarely present in his dietary habits.

At his most extravagant, he could drink nearly a hundred bottles of beer in one day.

The lifestyle of beer and cigarettes provided him with fleeting "happiness," but it also prematurely drained his body.

At the age of 36, Mr. Li was diagnosed with hypopharyngeal cancer, which later developed into oropharyngeal cancer. After the surgery, he was unable to speak normally and had to rely mainly on rice porridge for his diet.

But he still didn't learn from it, unable to quit smoking, cancer keeps recurring, and his health is deteriorating.

Just as Zweig wrote in "Marie Antoinette: The Portrait of an Average Woman":

"At that time, she was still too young to know that all the gifts bestowed by fate had already been secretly marked with a price."

One must admit that everything that brings you pleasure will definitely bring you pain.

The road of life is like this, everyone has to pay the price for their own stubbornness and choices.

It is essential for parents to make their children understand that pursuing "junk happiness" will inevitably lead to paying the price of "self-destruction in the future".

Indulging in bad habits will eventually pull you into the abyss.

Never wait until you fall into the abyss to regret that you took the wrong path in the first place.

Never let a moment of indulgence become a deep hole that cannot be filled for a lifetime.

The best education is to raise a child who is physically and mentally healthy.

In the movie "Hi, Mom," there is a scene that expresses the inner thoughts of parents all over the world:

Jia Xiaoling told Li Huanying:

"Your future daughter is intelligent and beautiful, starting elementary school before the age of five and always ranking first in the whole school. Her monthly salary is eighty thousand..."

Li Huanying shook her head upon hearing this and smiled, saying:

"My daughter, as long as she is healthy and happy, I am satisfied."

The four words "健康快乐" may sound simple, but in reality, achieving them often involves overcoming many obstacles.

Raising children is like nurturing plants, it requires the right temperature, proper watering, and regular weeding to prevent pests.

To ensure a child's health and happiness, one must start with every detail of life and teach the child to stop unhealthy habits.

People's Daily once summarized the "Seven Major Risk Factors for Cancer", five of which are closely related to children's growth:

(1) Smoking: It is well known that one of the major sources of harmful smoke that adolescents breathe in is "secondhand smoke," which poses a particularly severe threat to children. It can not only affect intellectual development but also lead to diseases such as asthma, bronchitis, and pneumonia.

(2) Lack of exercise: Laziness often leads people to indulge in a comfortable life, forgetting to maintain their physical condition. Inadequate exercise can also lead to poor body management, resulting in issues such as obesity and weakened immune system. The same applies to children.

Pressure: After entering middle school and high school, with the change in learning environment and increase in subjects, children's pressure will gradually rise. Parents should help children adjust to pressure, find a reasonable way to communicate, and stop blindly forcing their children.

(4) Unreasonable dietary habits: overeating and binge drinking, being picky with food and having an unbalanced diet, consuming too much smoked and grilled food, skipping breakfast, replacing water with sugary drinks, and eating junk food as meals, etc. Persisting with these unhealthy eating habits in the long term will eventually lead to a series of health problems.

(5) Psychological tension: When children reach adolescence, parents should pay more attention to their emotional fluctuations, observe changes in their personalities, regulate their inner world, and prioritize mental health issues.

Parents with real foresight are able to teach their children to develop these three lifestyles in daily life:

(1) Stick to exercising to keep fit: Help children give up laziness, accompany them in activities such as running, hiking, playing ball, swimming, and actively engage in outdoor activities. Avoid staying indoors all the time and sitting still for long periods.

(2) Early to bed and early to rise, saving up energy: Establish a reasonable sleep schedule, determine what time to go to bed and what time to wake up, avoid using your phone before sleeping, ensure adequate sleep quality, so that you can naturally greet a new day in the best state the next day.

(3) Reasonable diet, understanding moderation: Eat on time every day, do not skip breakfast, balance meat and vegetables in the diet, and try to ensure the intake of various nutrients. At the same time, control your mouth, reduce consumption of harmful "snacks" and drinks, moderate your diet, and your health will be guaranteed.

I fully agree with a point: Health is the foundation of all happiness. Without health, no matter how much effort is made, it is useless.

On the road of education, only by ensuring that children grow up healthy and happy can true family happiness be achieved.

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